Everytime I hear them all honing over femininity, I feel ridiculous to even acknowledge that paradigm of insanity. Every single time.
The more one emphasises on a particular subject, it becomes prominent, regardless of how sane or insane the subject really is. And it just does not stop there, but also invites with it people that "realise" in the favour of the subject, or against. Those that realise in the favour of void, find a new cause to fight for, an incoherent one. While those that talk against the subject might just find it as a hobby to impeach and disrepute the purpose itself, or have a different solution(s) to address the subject.
So, what am I talking about?
Many things. Many many social notions that, I feel, are prejudiced and iniquitously practiced.
I organised a technical workshop for women last year. It was to encourage them, boost their morals to get them involved into programming and annihilate the notion that programming was purely men's business. Although the coaches were both men and women, the participants were women only. The day before the workshop I was preparing for my opening speech. I could not find a clear way to convey my emotions for organising this event. I did not want to misinterpret my intentions as all those women participants were foolish enough to not build enough courage to learn a skill, or that they're silly enough to not even acknowledge how to stand tall against the odds. That's when it ticked me why was I doing it in the first place!
The event was very interesting, successful and everything materialised, as expected. I enjoyed the social aspect of it the most. There were women from all age group. All of them with their own stories, own experiences, own reasons to learn this "buzzword"- programming.
Few weeks later, there were series of questions at me for not being "inclusive enough". It stirred my fury, until I realised that that's something coherent and needs a justification, if not for others, for my very self.
I was not wrong in being women centric about the workshop, as much as I was not right in not making the atmosphere accommodating for everybody. There still are some acquaintances that buy into this idea of doing things only for women. It ticks me a bit. Why? Simply because it gives one an impression of women being inferior to men! When that is absolutely not the case. I do not see it as the solution for equal rights. Our men need to be taught about inclusion and respect as much as our women need to resurface their courage and intellect.
Asking for help should not be shameful, but misusing that help as a tool to subjugate the other gender totally is. What good is education if the incorporation of discrimination is still a part of one's morals? What values do we pass on to the next generation?
The more one emphasises on a particular subject, it becomes prominent, regardless of how sane or insane the subject really is. And it just does not stop there, but also invites with it people that "realise" in the favour of the subject, or against. Those that realise in the favour of void, find a new cause to fight for, an incoherent one. While those that talk against the subject might just find it as a hobby to impeach and disrepute the purpose itself, or have a different solution(s) to address the subject.
So, what am I talking about?
Many things. Many many social notions that, I feel, are prejudiced and iniquitously practiced.
I organised a technical workshop for women last year. It was to encourage them, boost their morals to get them involved into programming and annihilate the notion that programming was purely men's business. Although the coaches were both men and women, the participants were women only. The day before the workshop I was preparing for my opening speech. I could not find a clear way to convey my emotions for organising this event. I did not want to misinterpret my intentions as all those women participants were foolish enough to not build enough courage to learn a skill, or that they're silly enough to not even acknowledge how to stand tall against the odds. That's when it ticked me why was I doing it in the first place!
The event was very interesting, successful and everything materialised, as expected. I enjoyed the social aspect of it the most. There were women from all age group. All of them with their own stories, own experiences, own reasons to learn this "buzzword"- programming.
Few weeks later, there were series of questions at me for not being "inclusive enough". It stirred my fury, until I realised that that's something coherent and needs a justification, if not for others, for my very self.
I was not wrong in being women centric about the workshop, as much as I was not right in not making the atmosphere accommodating for everybody. There still are some acquaintances that buy into this idea of doing things only for women. It ticks me a bit. Why? Simply because it gives one an impression of women being inferior to men! When that is absolutely not the case. I do not see it as the solution for equal rights. Our men need to be taught about inclusion and respect as much as our women need to resurface their courage and intellect.
Asking for help should not be shameful, but misusing that help as a tool to subjugate the other gender totally is. What good is education if the incorporation of discrimination is still a part of one's morals? What values do we pass on to the next generation?
